“Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.” – Judith Belmont
Having recently turned twenty years old some weeks back (a very poignant age in ones life I might add) I began reflecting on how much I’ve learnt and developed as a person over the years. Looking back, and without sounding like I’m in my late 60s, these 20 years have actually flown by. Here are my 20 life lessons:
- Don’t follow the crowd! Trends come and go, and then come back around again! So just do you boo boo!
- You may not know your life’s passion… and that’s ok. Delve into your interests and hobbies and you may just about find it. Trust me, no one really knows what they’re doing anyway.
- You’ll never really feel ready for the big wide world of work. But you’ll have to face it some time or other, no matter how long you try to delay it.
- Some friends will be in your life for a season or a lifetime…and that’s just the way it is. We’ve all been guilty of promising someone that we will “definitely stay in touch”, and never actually making good on that promise. Most of the time the hustle and bustle of everyday life just gets in the way of trying to maintain friendships. Don’t lament the fact that you no longer speak to a person on a regular basis or even at all, rather reflect on the memories and times you shared with them.
- This world is filled with some incredibly beautiful places, landscapes and nature. GET OUT THERE AND SEE IT!
- You may not be in the place you pictured you would be by this age, but that’s not a bad thing. Life can be unpredictable, random, and have a wicked sense of humour, so just take it all in!
- Sometimes you need to be alone and just enjoy your own company.
- Self-care days are essential, make sure you set aside time each week for it!
- Don’t let the opinions of others define you. After all, YOU are the only person that knows YOU best!
- Don’t say “If I buy this..then I’ll be happy” or “When I do this…then I’ll definitely be happy.” Live in the present and not in the future. Do things RIGHT NOW (however small) that will make you happy, and whatever goals you’ve set will be an added bonus once you’ve achieved them.
- Actively strive to be grateful for the things in your life and show gratitude to others daily.
- Sometimes all you need to feel better is to have a good crying session.
- Wake up just a bit earlier before your alarm each day, to prepare your mind for the day ahead. You’ll be surprised just how much your outlook changes when you do this.
- Do not let other people’s negative actions or comments cause your outlook of the world to change. This Earth is still a beautiful place.
- It doesn’t matter how long you haven’t spoken/ called/ texted your close friend for, when you need them they will always be there for you.
- Despite having hated going to bed early when you were younger, long sleeps are the actual best! #TheRealMVP
- That one tub of Häagen-Dazs Pralines & Cream ice-cream isn’t going to kill you. Live life and eat the whole tub girl!
- Spend time with the older generation of your family. They have a lot of wisdom and advice to pass down to you. Be a good listener and see what you can learn, because if it wasn’t for them you wouldn’t be here today.
- Cut ties with any one who doesn’t build you up and has a negative effect on you, the sooner the better.
- Remember to be humble, a lot was accomplished before you were even on the scene!
What are some of your life’s reflections?
Until next time,
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Søren Kierkegaard.”